Ask the Doctor by Dr. Joneal Kirby
7/7/2008
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Q. I am a single mom, divorced for five years. My ex-husband and I don’t get along at all – he is still so angry! I think it is affecting my little girl who is seven years old. How do I help her and also protect her from her father’s anger? My life is pretty miserable and my daughter seems so unhappy.
A. I'm so sorry that you and your daughter have suffered such a tragic situation. Your ex-husband’s anger is really something you have no control over. But you do have control over your response to it. He may be very angry with himself for what he has done to his life and yours. Regardless of his mental health, you must do whatever it takes to strengthen your own spiritual and mental health. First, never put you or your child in a situation where his anger may errupt into a verbal assault or physical violence. Protect yourself and your daughter from this. Second, I want to encourage you to be the best mom for your little girl. She has had a rough time of it already with her family broken apart. Work really hard to provide her with love, security, and the training she needs to be healthy in every way. Join a church community where you can surround her with good friendships with good people. Get her involved in Bible class and other activities learning about God's word. Jesus loves you and your little girl very much, and will give you the strength to work through this very complicated situation. You may also seek the support and advice of a Christian counselor. Your pastor or a Christian friend should be able to help you find one in your area.
And make sure that you are connected with supportive people. Mature Christian women in a church through a Bible class or a mentoring program can provide you with direction, guidance, and advice to help you be the best parent for your little girl. You need the help of godly friends to help you with all the tasks and responsibilities that being a single mom is required to handle. There is no doubt that single moms have the most difficult job to do. With so many demands on your time and energy, you can become frustrated and exhausted. Take time to pray and spend time with Christian friends and also to ask others for help to raise your daughter to be all that God wants her to be.
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